Making Good Use of A Great Opportunity, Set Aside Your Insecurities

What a timely message from God!  I just came back from a learning session with two of the best photographers in our camera club and I'm feeling very grateful and inspired! The message given below is somehow a preview of the cycle of things. For now, I'm the one being inspired by others. But hopefully, in the future, I can also inspire others with my skills and talent. It is definitely a goal of mine to achieve such in my lifetime.

Message from God

Daily messages to connect you with God

Today, Tina, God wants you to know that greatness is your birthright.

Who are you to shine brighter than others? Who are you to take a step forward when others are shrinking back? Who are you to make others feel insecure with your greatness? You are a child of God. Take a step forward, shine bright, and inspire others with your light to their own greatness.

It took courage for me to ask for help. As I prepare to do my submissions for the 2nd photography contest, I find myself overwhelmed. I've been choosing photos for the last few weeks, and I'm having a hard time. I find them so mediocre and I feel hopeless and just want to throw away these photos. But today after the session, I became aware of the possibilities of transforming my mediocre photos into something very much interesting. It is not hopeless after all. I've seen amazing photos from these two photographers and from many others too and I'm genuinely curious as to how they were able to shoot them that way. And why am I not able to come up with photos like that.

I never had the courage to ask for help as it makes me feel stupid and ashamed. Asking for help makes me feel weak which is really a misconception or a reflection of how lowly I view myself. And I always feel awkward imposing on someone else. But hey, I am given another opportunity to learn (many in fact), and I better not waste them again.

Tired of Dealing with my Self-Confidence Issues

There are always these thoughts in my mind that I get so excited with a plan. In this instance, it's a plan to improve my photography and achieve my dream of being able to get recognition. In my mind, things seem so easy and maybe, just maybe I will be able to achieve this dream.

But then again, I have these feelings at certain times that I may just get my hopes up, and then just as situations in my life end up in disappointment.

Just like my love life. Several times, I get excited, I humble myself and surrender to God. I start to feel good about my dream, then days past and it's just gone. That dream just seem to fizzle out, I really don't know why!

And like my small business, I get excited, I work out a business plan, but then again, I only earn a bit despite my own thinking that I've been successful. But in reality, it's such a small win in the eyes of others. Is it just because I look down on my own success? Or I let other people's standards turn off my fire to easily.

I'm feeling like that again, after a month or so of this project. I hate to be disappointed again. Because honestly, I'm so tired that all my dreams just seem to fizzle out so easily. Am I not working hard enough? Am I so privileged that I feel I can be successful in this world too like others? Don't I deserve this? 

Restarting the Journey: Musings Part Three

Part 3, the OTS Fellowship Night. So ok, another social challenge for me, probably the biggest one. But long story short, I was again proven wrong for having self-confidence related anxieties.

This community is probably the most welcoming group I have ever met. Despite my anxieties, I immediately felt like I belonged. So this makes me think, is this just because I finally found the right group of people or is it just because I didn't want to entertain those opportunities in the past due to my fears.

I had no choice but to volunteer to be the program host for the night, despite not being familiar with it as this was my first time to attend such as event. And my first time after so long to do public speaking. But thankfully, I was not that nervous to be honest and I attribute this to the training that Accenture had given me. I was always very self-conscious and shy when I was young, even when I was in higher education, but due to my job, I was forced to learn and honestly, I am pretty happy of the result. I felt more confident about myself over the years and a lot of the anxieties have gone away, I hope for good. I couldn't imagine myself doing this without my Accenture background. Of course, there were still some anxiousness at first, but knowing that I could do this with at least half an eye closed, I gained that courage to push forward.

I knew that I had to be prepared, I knew that I needed to ask for inputs from others, but when given little, I knew that I needed to just take a stand and incorporate my own style here and it wouldn't really matter. After all, we're all adults here, and not really newbies in a sense waiting for things to fall into your hands, despite being probees. The experiences that life has given me in the past brought me to where I am today and I'm glad and proud I did achieve something in the 5 decades of my life. This was definitely a major improvement in terms of personal development.

A side THOUGHT: speaking of asserting myself, when I assert myself due to this newfound confidence, there's a danger of appearing aggressive and arrogant to others especially when people don't understand you.

Lessons Learned:

• One can avoid projecting aggressiveness and arrogance by changing the communication style. For example, ask for feedback, or share your thoughts and apprehensions with others so that they understand your real intentions but last thing you should do is stay quiet and avoid this opportunity

So, how did my hosting go? Not perfect, but I think I was able to wing it, people did laugh at me and that makes for a more casual ambiance, it doesn't matter if they are laughing because of me or what. I also thank God that a live band was around, and actually drove the energy of the group and let me get away with our simple plan. Anyway, there's always a next time, when and where we can do better.

Lessons Learned:

• Get to know your audience, get feedback for your plans from someone who knows better, run through what you're thinking with them so that you can avoid being surprised
• Always prepare for backup activities
• Be game and learn how to dance and sing, even if not perfect

Restarting the Journey: Musings Part Too

It was a busy few days, from the first monthly meeting to the On-the-Spot Shoot and Fellowship Night, I was fully immersed in my role as a probee and there was no time to recover from the stress of being an introvert exposed to so many people in such a short time.

Soon after the 1st monthly meeting, I had my first on-the-spot shoot at the Ayala Triangle Gardens in Makati, interestingly a place where a major part of my career started, not my first job, but my 1st official office in Makati. It was a good visit back to memory lane and seeing the many changes over the decades.

While on location, I met so many people that knew me but I am so ashamed I couldn't remember their names. Faces did seem familiar, and their quick reactions and smiles when they saw me were there to confirm that I should know them. I guess they can easily identify me since we were introduced several times over viber and during the face to face meetings while it is hard for me to remember all their names.

The shooting activity was okay. At first, I was wary of the fact that I'm shooting with two people who have done this for a long time, and may not be as pressured to get that shot as I am. But I was glad that I joined them especially since it was my first time. Within 5 minutes, one of them had already gotten their shot, and that made me feel pressured. Then we met with others who are also pros, and with similar behavior as the first two, they could afford to take a break and have coffee before they go to work.  But then again it made sense to make use of the downtime while the weather is bad and there's nothing much to shoot yet. They seem to know how to where and when to channel their energy, so I'm glad I joined them and were able to observe this.

Of course, I had to weigh the odds of simply following their lead vs walking on my own, I didn't want to seem like I wanna be too independent or proud to do things on my own but I also don't want to miss being able to explore and learn how to spot things on my own. It was interesting to be aware of this type of thinking, because it may be one of the things that hindered my growth in the past.

While there, I also got the opportunity for someone to provide me on the spot critic, and got some good ideas on how to make things different and special, such as including a human element, and something to give a sense of scale. Very interesting tips indeed. My only concern was whether I had to exert more effort and go the second day, or just live with the first day's output. What if these weren't good enough? I had a little bit of contentment but not without looking through my photos.  The only risk is that I haven't had it vetted yet.

Lessons Learned:

• I know that I have this tendency to keep things to my self, sometimes a bit secretive and maybe a bit selfish to share, building a wall around me. This is something I need to improve on cause basically, I'm just hindering myself from growing. In hindsight, I could have asked one of the experts to show me what he's shooting since we were walking in the same path. Instead, I walked on my own. It's as simple as asking "do you have any tips for me"?
• When being challenged between being able to do things on my own and asking for help, I need to learn how to do this better. after all, I can do both. In the end, the feedback will be useful irregardless and I'll still have the final say. - this is exactly the meaning of humbling down.
• With the new learnings, try to critique my own photos and see how I can improve, ask questions if needed to get outside perspective

Restarting the Journey: Musings

Took that first step, submitted my letter of intent to join a camera club and this where I am now. I got accepted as a probee and I attended my first meeting and joined the first photo contest sponsored by the camera club.

First of all, it was an adjustment to be back in a formal organization. I missed the structure and this surely gave me a shot of excitement to be back. I'm also back in the city where I started my work and this weekend's photo walk would be in the same block where my first job took place. A run down memory lane indeed, but even more excited about the changes that the three decades brought about.

Talking about structure, yes I had to formally submit a letter of intent, fill up an application form, submit a sample of previously shot photos, a visit to observe one of the monthly meetings, and finally an interview with the board of directors.  Long story short, I got accepted as a probee.

But the challenge doesn't stop here. I still have to meet eligibility requirements to become a member within a 2-year period, attend the monthly meetings, achieve a certain number of contest points, participate in other club activities such as exhibits, join photowalks locally and out of country, and do the mundane probee stuff that all probees do. Yesterday I learned to make the cutest blue-tak balls, and now I've been prodded to volunteer to be a program host for a regular event that I haven't even attended in the past. That's just a start! But honestly, I am pretty excited to do all these as I'm starting :-)

So how did my first meeting go?  It was great, I introduced myself and mentioned a bit about my previous work and company. I got to talk to a couple of folks who knew about Accenture, and even Andersen Consulting back in the days. It was interesting.

As for the photo contest, I get to submit 2 entries with the theme called "curves ahead."  I took one of the shots in Tagaytay after I learned of the theme, made a bit of effort to shoot it, and the other shot I digged up from my "baul" or archives. My recent shot got a 3.5 out of a 5 score which is a passing grade, but my older photo got a 2.8 out of 5 score which is a failing grade. Not so much that I didn't expect this, but I was just happy I was not the only one who had a failed entry. In fact, I was telling one of my mentors that as soon as I saw the photos of others being posted, I knew my entry wasn't going to make it despite hoping it would at least get a passing mark.

Thoughts in my mind: I didn't ask for help first because I want to know how I select photos now so that I can see what's wrong. And because of this, I intentionally didn't ask for help on my first try, although I know that the other club members are very much willing to help even in providing feedback, providing tips, helping select photos and even helping to edit and post process the photos.

Things I learned:

• Never be content too early, do a bit more work and spend more effort to get the best shot. Don't be lazy, success comes from hard work.
• Ask for help, after all that's what I am here for. Admittedly, I intentionally didn't ask for folks to review my entries even after they mentioned it's ok. Because I also wanted to understand my own selection process and thinking and maybe in the next round, I get to find out what I've been doing wrong.
• Don't be afraid to fail, don't be afraid of criticism
• Learn from others, understand why and what makes a good photo, ask!